What if you were FULL OF FORCE?

Have you ever put something together? How about a piece of furniture or a child's toy?How about forcing yourself into those pair of jeans that you knew were too small but by sheer force you were GOING to get them on!

I have tons of stories like this. I am sure you do, too.

Vividly, as I am writing this, I am remembering this hutch I bought. I remember being so excited about putting it together and before I knew it there I was with extra screws (that were never meant to be extras). As the instructions indicated I tightened all the screws only to find out that the cabinet doors wouldn't close properly.


I can hear the sound of my mom now..."Erica READ the directions!"

How about you?

Have you ever tried on a pair of pants or a dress thinking, "This should fit me!" only to find yourself in a conundrum, hopping around the dressing room in a full sweat and trying to get that tight out-fit off of you?

In my experience anything I have forced has always been compromised in some way. I know, instinctually that I should have stopped, asked for help and trusted my instincts. I knew that forcing it was not going to be the way to the path of least resistance.

Forcing creates MORE resistance.

When we force our way through life and careers we rely only on brute force, which will sometimes get you far but never far enough. Also, it's exhausting.

And this kind of force never lasts the distance.

They say that "Life is a marathon, not a sprint" and if we keep forcing our way into a career model of how we should be, we find ourselves very unhappy and very, very stuck in our jobs.

Look at the picture at the top of this post.

Think about what things, people and situations that you have may have forced this past week.

  • How has that helped you?
  • How has that hindered you?

Now... think about how different your job would be if you didn't need to be forceful to get what you really wanted?

What if you were FULL OF FORCE IN YOUR JOB?

Big difference.

Let me know how forceful you are in your work and life. Send your comments to:


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                                                      Why You Should Learn to Zero In


Sitting at my desk and while researching, I found an interesting study done by Harvard on Happiness in the workplace.
Then it strikes me – my AH HA moment: I realize I have 87 emails in my inbox.
Then the doorbell rings…
The UPS man has arrived with a package!
I get up to answer the door and BOOM: my mom texts me with the urgent message about my Aunt Millie. Aunt Millie is 97 (God Bless her!) and in the hospital with an infection.

Everything happening at once!

What do I do?
What do I tackle first when everything needs my attention NOW?

I end up answering the door, putting the package away, texting mom back and the returning to my research.

All while I can’t decide whether to start singing or screaming.

Does this sound like your day? Or maybe worse?

For the average person working in an office or from home, it is easy to become distracted. I know how it feels when you are in the middle of one thing and then…

  • The laundry looks good...
  • You need more coffee…
  • Time to prepare for dinner…

But when it comes to finding your FOCUSbeing able to concentrate on one task specifically helps people to get more done effortlessly.

Why does this happen?

Because we don’t dilute our efforts. It helps because your brain isn’t switching between all the tasks that aren’t complete.


My head hurts after a day like that!

So what do you do?

Learn to zero in. Learn to avoid distraction and stay super productive all workday long or even most of the day.

Easier said than done, right?

Here are some major facts to chew on:

  • In the office, nearly 50% of American employees say they work for only 15 minutes before becoming distracted.
  • 53% of American employees report wasting an hour or more a day because of disruptions.

From constant noise to overflowing inboxes to feeling fatigued or stressed, almost anything can cause people to lose focus.

Zoom In: Your Action Plan

It’s possible to find flow — or effortless concentration on and enjoyment of a task — by tackling a challenge that’s meaningful and manageable.

Having a job you love with a reasonable workload makes achieving flow a lot easier. But regardless of the task at hand, there are lots of useful tips that can help people stay focused on their work and make the most of the day:

  • Pinpoint the problem. What causes you to lose focus? Is it fatigue, hunger or a Twitter addiction? Figuring out the issue is the first step toward trying to fix it.
  • Plan ahead. Envision what the workday will look like before it happens. Write down what things need to get done or what you want to accomplish. Setting goals can help people stay on track.

Now take a look at the picture above and notice:

  • What is in focus?
  • What is not in focus?
  • What would your job look like if you could focus more?

I’d love to know what helps you stay focused or what distracts you.

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P.S. If you feel like you could benefit from being more focused I invite you to take advantage of a complimentary career breakthrough session!

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Alignment: How many things can you think of that need an alignment?


                                   How many things can you think of that need an alignment?

When I see the word alignment I think of my car.

When I see the word alignment I think of my car.

Example: When the mechanic says that it’s time for your tire change and your alignment.

I begin to think to myself: “Do I really need this?” or “Is this a Rip Off?

Then I evaluate and ask myself, “Do I really know what an alignment does for my car?”

After all, I am not a mechanic, I am a Career Coach!

Now thanks to my mom (who could easily be a mechanic) I have a vague idea of what a car alignment is. Though my own hunch would be aligning something to keep it “on the straight and narrow”. I’d also believe that this process ensures my car doesn’t have unnecessary wear and tear, favoring one side over the other due to hitting a pothole or from now enough air in my tires.

*Both of which I am so guilty of!*

But what about your career?

Have you ever thought about what alignment can do for you?

Being both funny and serious for a variety of reasons – alignment works.

  • Maybe you outgrew your position or aren’t satisfied with the work you produce?
  • Maybe you and the organizational culture don’t mix?

There are plenty of reasons why you need to check your career alignment.

Here is what I believe:

If your career has hit that proverbial pothole and you became complacent – why NOT think about taking a few minutes out of your day to ponder:

What do I have in alignment with my career?

  • My Job?
  • My Co-Workers?
  • My Boss?

Look at the picture at the top of this blog post.

Ask yourself, “What if MY vision was aligned with who I am in my career? What would it look like?

Please feel free to share your career alignments or misalignment moments with me at:


P.S - Just a quick and friendly reminder to get your car checked for alignment!

If you're in need of an alignment or wondering if it could help you in your job I have 5 spots on my calendar available now.

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                                                            What Is Your Point Of YOU?

                                                           Unconventional Career Insight

Marty Seligm

Every heard of this man? Recently, I had the privilege and honor to meet Marty at the 4th International Positive Psychology Association World Congress in Disney, the happiest place on earth. If you haven't heard of Marty, he is the founding father of Positive Psychology-a tremendous contributor to this field and leads the PHd program at UPenn ( and way,way more).I d like to say,"Thank you Marty for all of your time, treasure, and talent we would be lost without you."

For those of you who arent familiar with Positive Psychology, it is the science of happiness. Where in traditional Psychology where negative emotions are studied, Positive Psychology studies all the positive emotions and their affects such as resilience,hope, optimism, gratitude, health and well being just to name a few. It was so wonderful to see how FINALLYFortune 500 companies executives and Education systems around the globe are beginning to lead with Positive Psychology then ever before. 

Which is why I am so grateful to people like Dr.Marty Seligman who have made it their mission to bring great research and best practices to everyone. Early on in my coaching career I learned about Positive Psychology and it has transformed the way I coach thus creating lasting change for myself, my clients and the companies I work with.

It was truly wonderful and impressive to know at this congress,we had over 1,200 people in attendance and over 50 countries represented from academia, research, to practitioners and coaches like me.

So how does this relate to you and your career?

Perhaps take a moment and think about who has been instrumental in your career, either someone you may have met or not. Think about how  you could  thank them for what they have done to pave the way for you ? Or how could you meet them just like I did?

You might not get a second chance.

  • Make a list right now of 3 people who have been instrumental in your career.
  • Think of a unique, genuine way to thank them for what they have done.
  • Heck, find out where they are and meet them in person!

I must say that being able to meet someone who has impacted my life and career and genuinely thank them in person, is anincredible feeling that will stay with me forever.

If you'd like to share your story of how you thanked that special person who impacted your career, please feel free to post your comments on our FB page, or reply to this email:

Erica Loren ACC CPC

Inste for Professional and Excellence of Coaching. Erica is an active Board Member of International Coaching Federation of NJ and Vestry Mem


What Is Your Point Of YOU?

Daily insight for your career!

What Is Your Point Of YOU?

Daily insight for your career!


What do you think of this picture?

I personally love it! It actually makes me think of many things like summer vacations as a child or even those good ol' camp Ivy League days. However, did you know that this picture can provoke much more insight as to what could be going on for you and your career?You see images can be just as powerful as words. We are very visual creatures. A large percentage of the human brain dedicates itself to visual processing. In addition images also help to educate,inform, and identify people,places and things in a split second.

So, instead of sending out lengthily newsletters that many don't have time to read or find helpful, I'd like to provide you with a valuable coaching opportunity, in the privacy of your own home, office, or cell phone.

I'll be sending out this new, revised format of my newsletter once a week. Though Iam offering it daily to help those who really want it, just sign up at:

My hopes is that you will gain insights from these powerful images that will mobilize you to take action for what you desire in your career when you feel stuck,unclear, or uninspired.

You can even share them with your team to jazz up a meeting or create meaningful chat with either family, or friends. You'd be surprised what they might say that could spark something in you. 

 Want to give it a try?

To begin, take a moment and take notice of what is occurring in the picture. Notice the colors,words, expressions,the light,time of day,background etc. 

Now review the 3 questions below:

Question #1. Where do you see yourself if at all in this picture?

Question #2. What do you connect with in this picture?  Any emotions, feeling, memories arise?

Question #3. How does this picture connect with the issue your having concerning you career and or job?

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Please feel free to pass it on. Cant wait to hear from you and learn what your point of YOU was!

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